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Self-Help Book for Children of Hoarders

Image courtesy of F. Neziroglu

Image courtesy F. Neziroglu.

Via New Harbinger Publications comes a new self help book for children of hoarders, Children of Hoarders: How to Minimize Conflict, Reduce the Clutter, and Improve Your Relationship (print/Kindle). Written by psychologists Fugen Neziroglu and Katharine Donnelly, the book offers tips to children of hoarders to help them manage their relationships with their parents more effectively, including the use of mindfulness, acceptance, assertiveness and validation skills. Specific topics covered range from ways to talk with a parent about how a hoarding environment affects the child, to coping with difficult emotions, to talking with others about the problem, and even discussing some of the issues that arise when a child inherits a hoarded home after the death of a parent (see contents below).

Given the amount of interest this book is sure to have within our community, Children of Hoarders, Inc. recently interviewed Dr. Neziroglu about the book, and we will be publishing the interview in several installments: Part 1, Part 2, and more.



Children of Hoarders: How to Minimize Conflict, Reduce the Clutter, and Improve Your Relationship.


  • Introduction: Children of Hoarders
  • Understanding Hoarding: The Problem Underlying the Mess
  • How Your Parent’s Hoarding Affects You
  • Talking to Your Parent about the Problem: What Works and What Does Not
  • Managing Your Reactions and Coping with Your Emotions: A Mindfulness- and Acceptance-Oriented Approach
  • Tools for Coping Specifically with Anger, Depression, and Disgust
  • Improving Your Relationship with Your Parent
  • Talking to Others about the Problem
  • If You Live with Your Parent
  • Potential Adversaries and Allies in the Community
  • Inheriting the Mess: How to Tackle Cleaning Up When Mourning the Loss of Your Parent
  • Resources

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  • Whitney Boyd McMahan

    Never heard of these two? Any of our grass roots group know who they are? Their qualifications? Read the book? TLC’s buried alive psychs? <never watched that show.

    • Hi Whitney – Yes, Dr. Neziroglu is one of the psychologists who appears in the TLC series. In fact, I believe she was one of the psychologists on the first hoarding documentary for TV, Discovery Studios’ “Help! I’m a Hoarder,” which predated both the TLC and A&E series and is arguably the show that originally sparked popular interest in hoarding. Unfortunately, that documentary is now hard to find online. She has written self-help books for several psychological conditions, including the first one for hoarders, “Overcoming Compulsive Hoarding,” back in 2004. While she originally focused her work on hoarders, she noticed that COH often are profoundly impacted by their parents’ hoarding. Now, she is one of the growing number of psychologists who view COH as individuals who need support in their own right, rather than as being merely adjuncts (or impediments) to treating a hoarder. I’m less familiar with Dr. Donnelly, but she is one of Dr. Neziroglus colleagues at the Bio Behavioral Institute in New York. http://www.biobehavioralinstitute.com/